After i saw this, i will go to church every weekend!
Donnerstag, 10. Februar 2011
Mittwoch, 9. Februar 2011
Dienstag, 8. Februar 2011
Montag, 7. Februar 2011
I discovered these 5 breakthrough steps as I backpacked across Mongolia with two of my best friends. It was very late in the evening when we walked into a tiny village with a name I still can’t pronounce. In spite of our blinding exhaustion, we noticed an overwhelming joy radiating from every person we passed. We stayed in that village for almost a month and it was during that time I sat with the town leaders and learned the steps I’m about to share with you.
Of course, it’s impossible to reach perfection. There’s no village in Mongolia with inexplicably joyful people walking around in a haze of perfection. There are no hidden keys to happy living that I can reveal to you in 5 easy steps.
So why do we pretend? Why do productivity writers pander to base instincts and sacrifice real conversations on the altar of quick points? Why do you, as a reader, often exhibit such an appetite for articles written with intense certainty about subjects you know to be too complex for any single article?
Easily digested content is just as easily forgotten. Do you really want to bemusedly read the same steps to a “productive life” over and over as they’re re-purposed across the internet and paired with some inspiring image?
Or have we possibly grown as an online community to the point where a writer like myself can share an imperfect concept and figure out an optimal solution through subsequent commentary and email exchanges with readers? With YOU?
Sonntag, 6. Februar 2011
This Wednesday…Tips on how to be happy—from the year 1625.
Below are selected suggestions put forth by British philosopher, essayist, and statesman Francis Bacon in his essay, “Of Regiment of Health”:
It is a safer conclusion to say, This agreeth not well with me, therefore I will not continue it, than this, I find no offence of this, therefore I may use it.
Discern of the coming on of years, and think not to do the same things still.
Beware of sudden change in any great point of diet, and if necessity enforce it, fit the rest to it. For it is a secret, both in nature and state, that it is safer to change many things than one. [I found this observation particularly intriguing.]
Examine thy customs of diet, sleep, exercise, apparel and the like, and try in anything thou shalt judge hurtful, to discontinue it little by little; but so as if thou dost find any inconvenience by the change, thou come back to it again: for it is hard to distinguish that which is generally held good and wholesome from that which is good particularly and fit for thine own body.
To be free-minded and cheerfully disposed at hours of meat and of sleep and of exercise, is one of the best precepts of long lasting.
Avoid envy, anxious fears, anger fretting inwards, subtle and knotty inquisitions, joys and exhilarations in excess, sadness not communicated.
Entertain hopes, mirth rather than joy, variety of delights rather than surfeit of them, wonder and admiration (and therefore novelties), studies that fill the mind with splendid and illustrious objects (as histories, fables, and contemplations of nature).
Despise no new accident [unexpected change] in your body, but ask opinion of it.
In sickness, respect health principally; and in health, action.
You’re waiting for something to change in your life before you can be happy. You might think if only you had a different partner (or one at all), a better job, or kids that did their homework then surely you’d be happy. Surely then you’d wake each morning with the glow of one living a life worth loving. Enough! Here are 5 ways to get started:
1. Be present – You must be aware of your current existence and that you have control over your perspective. Whether you’re willing away early morning grouchiness or seeing a messy house as a chance to teach teamwork, your choice of perspective will make all the difference between just living and loving.
2. Practice gratefulness – Every day, no excuses. Pretend to be grateful if you must. It’s one of those things that catches up to you quickly as life reciprocates your emotional generosity. Seeing the good in your life will allow you to keep your heart fed while you work to change the more unsavory parts. Try it. Live it. You’ll love it.
3. Pursue balance - As a person given to extremes this has always been a tough one for me. I’ll go from taking great care of myself and communicating well to abandonment and silence as I let work consume me. The pursuit of balance requires constant adjustment as your life shifts but every time I really try for the middle I end up happier about my life. And that’s truly the point.
4. Nurture friendships – You know the people who for some reason or other welcome you into their lives? Treasure them. Make time to spend with them. It is those relationships that you’ll look back on with satisfaction when you get old and begin to wonder what your life was worth. Many of us spend far too much time thinking about how some material possession will improve our lives. An iMac would be nice. A good friend is worth just about everything though!
5. Embrace simplicity – You don’t need to have all your gold-plated ducks in a row in order to love the life you’re living. You don’t need lots of stuff and relationships so driven by drama that you often wish just to be left alone in silence. Instead you might try for a simpler approach and enjoy things because they are useful and not because they are expensive. You might join a friend just to talk and not worry about all the expensive trappings we so often heap on get-together’s. Try for simplicity and if complexity sneaks up on you, so be it. In learning to love the basics you’ll find a wondrous appreciation for the nicer things that come along.
What have you found helps bring you back to the moment you’re in and really start to enjoy the life you’re living right now?
Samstag, 5. Februar 2011
Donnerstag, 3. Februar 2011
2. Replying to email instantly (if they’re really waiting, they’ll call you).
3. Getting caught up in politics (it’s rarely worth it and never fun).
4. Pretending you’re saving lives (if you actually are, no need to pretend).
5. Refusing to give yourself uninterrupted time for work (they don’t need you that much).
6. Complaining about how little money you make (the people you’re complaining to can’t change it).
7. Forgetting to laugh and have fun (this can take work some days but is always worth it).
Bonus round: Stop eating lunch at your desk. You really deserve a walk, conversation with a friend, or a quiet hour away from your desk.